Love is not a product.
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Esther Perel - https://open.substack.com/pub/estherperel/p/letters-from-esther-should-i-stay
There are some situations in life we cannot see clearly until time has passed, until the story has unfolded in ways we cannot force through hard work and determination. One of the most enduring fantasies in relationships is that if we love enough, work hard enough, communicate enough, understand enough.. then everything will resolve. We employ this “effort optimism” as a means of controlling the uncertainties inherent to life and love. And then we consistently wonder: will I ever be enough? Will this relationship ever be enough?
Cant treat people or life as systems with inputs and outputs. Every input will have a new output. Variables change - people, socials, phases of life, finances, age, health, even growing up